If you have written your online dating profile, you know by now it is the least romantic, and most business like part of dating. Many people fill out online dating profiles similarly to completing any other beaurocratic form – quickly and efficiently. Little thought is given to the person reading it…Often the questions are asked in a pragmatic way, which doesn’t invite the writer to bring out feelings of excitement. Most people sound like 2-dimensional characters and are indistinguishable from other members of the site.  So whether people are searching for their soulmate or just someone to date, other than the photo, there isn’t much to go on.

I hear lots of complaints, “why should I even bother making an effort with my online dating profile”? Whether or not everyone makes an effort to write a profile isn’t really the point. Writing a decent online dating profile actually can do a lot of good for you.

It is a space to help you crystalise in written form who you are, what you have to offer and what you are looking for.

It sends a message that you take yourself seriously. Taking time to fill out the online dating profile well sends that message.

When you make an effort, others will too. When one person starts taking their online dating profiles seriously it inspires others to do the same.

– A well written online dating profile separates you from the rest. If everyone else says little about themselves, you will stand out as the person who takes the time to show themselves.

– Having a well written online dating profile gives people looking at your profile something to sink their teeth into. Content creates an opportunity for people to chat with you about something that you are passionate about. They can use your content to hit the ground running by connecting with you about something you really care about.

– It helps you to distinguish between people who are reading your online dating profile and those who aren’t. What I mean is, people who are reading your profile, vs just looking at your photo will make references to things you write, when they try to chat with you. (If you are reading all of this, I am going to assume you also want to be with a partner who reads!).

-Having a well written profile saves you time in the long run. If someone starts up with you that appears very wrong for you, you can say, take a look at my profile and then let me know if you are interested in continuing.  It is a pretty bold move, that enables the other person to know you won’t be messed with.

I have read many poorly written profiles. Even if people write a lot, but saying nothing, they aren’t inviting. A poorly written profile has the potential to invite the wrong person in, which may even be worse than no person. If you were applying for a job, surely you would spend many hours tweaking your cv. And that is just for a crappy job that will probably last a year or two. Online dating profiles are about trying to land your life partner (presumably), so shouldn’t you consider investing a fair amount of time on it?

What is your Best Feature that you need to focus on in your online dating profile? Email me at [email protected].