We all make mistakes. After all we’re all human. What’s important in any relationship is not the blunders you make, but what you do afterwards. Here’s a list of tips I’ve compiled to make those awkward, uncomfortable moments easier to overcome.

1) Go Easy on Yourself

When we stop whipping ourselves for our faults we open ourselves up to being kinder and more forgiving, not only to ourselves, but to our partner. This sets the stage for loving reconciliation. You can’t give love that you don’t have for yourself. You can’t be kind to your partner if you’re not kind to yourself.

2) You’re on the same Team

Whilst it sometimes feels that you’re at war with your partner, you need to remember that it’s not about right or wrong. You’re partner isn’t against you. You’re on the same team, and through seeking to understand each other, you can resolve your differences together so that you have win-win results.

3) Know That There is Always a Solution

You need to be optimistic that there’s a solution to every problem in your relationship. This makes it asier to grow and move forward together, as you are actively looking for positive outcomes, rather than wallowing in self defeating relationship talk such as ‘it’s useless’ or ‘she or he is never going to change’.

Of course the correct solution may not magically appear right away. Patience, forbearance and the attitude that ‘this too shall pass’ will help see you through any sticky period.

4) Seek Help

There’s no stigma around needing help in your relationship. The best relationships benefit from an objective third party who can offer new perspectives and skills to help overcome any serious differences, or recurring issues. Therapy often enables couples to own their relationship and proactively build their home in a conscious way together.

5) Don’t Forget the Big Picture

When you commit to your partner you’re invested for the future. Small hiccups along the way in the big picture, are just that, minute moments that you’ll look back on with pride and even share tears of laughter as you realise how far you’ve grown.

Travelling the long, winding road of a relationship isn’t easy as you navigate all it’s surprising, bumpy humps, but in the end it’s gratifying to be able to look back and see how far you’ve come together.

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