When I came to work with Micki I was feeling depressed that I would never get married. I was a bridesmaid at so many friend’s weddings and started to believe that it would never happen for me. By working with Micki I realized that I wasn’t giving off the best energy and I also wasn’t really conveying to other’s what I needed from a relationship. I was very confused about my wants and my needs, and Micki helped me to get more clear about this. A year after I finished working with Micki I met and married my husband. It wasn’t easy hanging on to the hope and belief that this would actually happen, but thank G-d I did. Having sessions along the way was helpful as it helped me to really focus myself better.
I chose to work with Micki because I had read many of her articles about love and relationships and a lot of it resonated with me. I never really had a relationship with a woman, I mostly just had hook-ups. Being in my late 20’s I wanted to create a change. I wanted to start a family already and not continue with this pattern of going from woman to woman. By working with Micki I discovered that I had a problem with becoming bored easily and an underlying fear of intimacy which kept me from really getting to know the women I was with. By resolving these issues I was able to establish a long term relationship with a woman I really love and respect.
I was going through a very difficult time in my life when I started going to Micki – depressed and anxious… an emotional mess – Micki immediately recommended that we try Somatic Experience Therapy to help me heal and move on from a very unhealthy and toxic relationship that I was struggling not only to get out of but to accept the reality that it was not meant to be – that I deserved better. Right from the first treatment it helped – in 50 minutes of intense SE work one accomplishes more than one can in hours and hours of regular ‘talk therapy’ – which I had tried in the past. After just a few sessions, I became much stronger and gained the clarity to see my situation for what is really was, rather than from a fantasy view point.
I had been severely abused by my father as a child and was struggling to believe that I was worthy of love. I kept choosing partners who were bad for me. When I came to see Micki I had started dating a man who treated me really well. I continued to test him and treat him badly to see if he would stay. By working with Micki I got to see how I had to handle my own anxiety and not throw it onto my partner. By staying the course I was able to work on my ability to trust both myself and my partner and to be able to develop a loving and healthy relationship.
I have always had a difficult time committing to important things. This fear of commitment has hampered my life. I came to see Micki because I was dating a woman whom I really loved but was scared of committing to because she didn’t fit the cookie cutter mold. After several sessions of Somatic Experience therapy with Micki I was able to let go of some old wounds that had been holding me back and was able to find a new way of moving forward. I have since been able to feel complete about my decision to marry my girlfriend.
I decided to seek out Micki’s help because I was dating aimlessly and not feeling as though I was getting anywhere. I dated women I really liked who dumped me after a few dates. Micki helped me to see that I may have been turning women off by presenting with overconfidence. In other words, because I was so concerned about women liking me, I acted so cool and confident that it was actually “too much” and made women fear they would never be good enough for me. Since this realization, I now have toned things down to the extent that women get to see the real me…which is ideal.
I came to see Micki because I just started dating a woman that I thought was the most beautiful woman in the world. I was freaked out because I didn’t want to “screw it up.” I had a history of suffering from depression and anxiety. Micki really helped me to hold myself together and see this woman, in a more realistic way so that I wouldn’t put her on a pedestal which would have completely destroyed the relationship. We have now been married for a year and have a baby together. We did some pre-marriage couples work with her so we could learn some tools and skills for how to work together. So grateful we did.
There is nothing worse than realizing you have made a huge mistake in marrying the wrong one. We had fun together when we were dating, but only realized after we had made a huge mistake. We felt like such failures as we tried so hard to keep pushing each other to keep going. It was only by working with Micki that we got to see that who we are as people just wouldn’t work long term as a couple. We are so grateful that we managed to get out of this relationship before complicating things by having children together. We now feel free to live our lives in a way that suits each of us individually. We have also learned what our true needs are so that we will choose partners who are better for us going forward.
We did the Prepare/Enrich workshop with Micki a year after we got married. We than did some couples work with Micki as we had some different ideas about our relationship expectations. Micki was very good at seeing both of our perspectives and not making us feel that she was taking sides. She enabled each of us to see what we needed to do differently to get the relationship in the best place possible.
My boyfriend and I came to see Micki because we had both come from challenging relationships. His parents had a messy divorce when he was young. My parents remained in an unhappy marriage til this day. Neither of us wanted to repeat any of these relationship patterns. We were able to see and handle potential roadblocks before they got in our way. We learned so many important tools and skills to deal better with conflicts as they arise so that they are dealt with, rather than remain things that get in our way. We feel so grateful for our work with Micki and everything she has taught us. We still pop by for occasional hiccups that need an outside perspective.
After the happy first years of our marriage, we began to experience a breakdown in communication. I had been sexually abused by a relative when I was a teenager and this held me back from being truly present, emotionally and physically, with my husband. Rather than sharing my feelings with my husband, I withdrew and blamed him for our problems. Our work with Micki enabled me to recognize my difficult feelings and learned how to express myself so that my husband could better understand me. We are now able to deal with challenges head on so that they don’t snow ball and become crises.
We came to Micki because we were not connecting well with one another after only a few years of marriage. I (Man) felt like I was making all of the decisions in our relationship and felt my wife was just coming along for the ride. Working with Micki enabled both of us to recognize the pattern we had developed where I wasn’t allowing my wife to be heard. I previously believed that it was my job to make the decisions and didn’t realize that my wife wanted to be involved, but that I was simply blocking her from doing so. Having turned this dynamic around we are now in such a healthy place.